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Five Reasons to Try a Tinted Moisturizer if You’re over 40

Five Reasons to Try a Tinted Moisturizer if You’re over 40

Five Reasons to Try a Tinted Moisturizer if You’re over 40 Thankfully, the decades of heavy, caked-on foundation are over. Using a Tinted Moisturizer might just be the best foundation coverage for women over 40. Tinted moisturizer is pretty much a moisturizer plus a foundation […]

The Best Facelift Without Surgery

The Best Facelift Without Surgery

The Best Facelift Without Surgery A surgical facelift has one major purpose – to make you look younger! With the price of being dangerous; painful and cost a whole lot of money. I am forever in search of options, options, options for looking great. I […]

How 2 Effective Techniques to Forgiving Yourself and Others Will Increase Your Self-Esteem

How 2 Effective Techniques to Forgiving Yourself and Others Will Increase Your Self-Esteem

Confidence and Self-Esteem are born of feeling good about yourself and releasing negative thoughts and emotions. Forgiving yourself and others may be one of the quickest ways to increase positive self-esteem. And with the following two techniques – it can be easy!

Be yourself; Accept yourself; Value yourself; Forgive yourself.

Technique One: Forgive Yourself First

When you notice your are not feeling good about a circumstance, an action, something you said, or even a judgment by another person – try forgiving yourself immediately and specifically.

The best way to forgive yourself is to begin by forgiving the small things every single day. This works because you are:

1) exercising your forgiveness muscle; and

2) just plain letting go of some thought pattern that is no longer serving you.

Forgiveness may be as simple as “I forgive myself for being late to this appointment today” or “I forgive myself for not eating as healthy as I should have yesterday” or “I forgive myself for being upset by what my boss said to me today (then, forgive your boss for not knowing how to better phrase something)”.

Then move on to more complicated forgiveness… “I forgive myself for not being there today for my children/spouse/pet” or “I forgive myself for not accomplishing my goals for last year”.

If you are struggling to forgive yourself, all it means is that you have built up negative feelings around a particular subject. Those negative emotions are currently stronger than your desire to forgive yourself. Keep working at it!

Example: You’ve been repeatedly late to appointments in the past and you just keep beating yourself up about being late; you can’t forgive yourself and you then you’re late again.  In this case, it may take longer to forgive yourself because of the residual feelings you’ve piled on over time. Keep reminding yourself every single time it happens that you forgive yourself – until it’s gone.

The good news is once you have truly forgiven yourself and moved on, you most likely will have cured the perceived problem as well. Example: you are no longer late to appointments.

Why It’s Important to Forgive Yourself Daily

It’s vital that you forgive yourself daily so you stop building up those residual negative feelings about a situation/something you said/something you did. If you allow beating up of yourself to continue, it will only be harder to forgive yourself easily in the future. See the pattern?

Eckhart Tolle, Spiritual Teacher says the following about forgiving yourself “To forgive yourself is to realize this is not who you are.” Forgiveness of self is the opportunity to heal the past and to be free.

Imagine how it will feel to give up your past history so you can move forward, grow, change, be more confident and be free of negativity.

Technique Two: Forgive Others

This is often easier said than done.

However, now that you’ve exercised the muscle of forgiving yourself, its time to forgive those who have hurt you – intentionally or unintentionally.

The definition of forgive is to: “stop feeling angry or resentful toward (someone) for an offense, flaw, or mistake”

The key to forgiving another is to not generically forgive someone. Just forgiving may be too broad for the mind to embrace.

Try this instead:

Consider deeply why it is that this other person hurt you, offended you or just plain made a mistake. Evaluate the situation to get to the deeper meaning.

Always remember, forgiving does not mean you need to ever be in contact personally with the person again. It means, you have forgiven them for you and your peace of mind and contentment of heart so you can move on and not think about the person, the situation, what happened anymore.

After considering deeply about why someone has hurt you, then forgive them for that specific reason.

Most likely in your thoughts, you realized that the other person may have been or is one of the following:

ignorant (lacking in knowledge or information);

addicted to something (drugs, sex, drama, pain);

in so much pain that they only hurt others;

are stubborn and unwilling to change;

are afraid to change or look at a situation another way;

Consider, think, and find the specific root cause of why the other person did what she/he did and forgive that part of them.

Even personally accomplishing the goal of forgiving yourself and others can make you more confident about yourself. Feeling peace, giving up the past, moving on all give you confidence and will increase your own personal self-esteem.

Another thing that builds positive self-esteem – making decisions!  Make a decision to forgive – yourself and others.

Enjoy the new found confidence!

Feeling anxious about forgiveness? Check out my blog on relieving anxiety.

Much love,

xoxo

Signe Holiday

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Best Meditation Essential Oils for Stress Relief

Best Meditation Essential Oils for Stress Relief

How Essential Oils Help Relieve Stress Smell brings you into the present moment in a Snap! Think of how what you are smelling now is in the immediate present. Keeping the mind from wandering into a negative thought pattern or obsessive thinking allows the body […]

Best Green Juice Recipe

Best Green Juice Recipe

We know vegetables are good for us! Juicing is one of the most effective and quickest ways to reap the benefits of digesting greens! Yet not all juicing recipes taste good! A good tasting Green Juice Recipe is hard to find! The recipe below includes […]

10 Tips for Natural, Effective Anxiety Relief

10 Tips for Natural, Effective Anxiety Relief

Anxiety is a truly disrupting way to feel, for some it may come and go with life’s circumstances, for others, anxiety is a daily occurrence.  Feeling anxious may arise when we least expect it and unless you have had a full on panic or anxiety attack you have no idea how truly terrifying these attacks can be.

You are not alone. Anxiety affects 40 million adults in the United States age 18 and older, or 18% of the population. (Source: National Institute of Mental Health).

You can empower yourself to feel better and once you master your anxiety, not only will you feel better but you can potentially help others – you will know what to do for yourself and be able to give others suggestions and their own peace of mind.

Number 1: Exercise – even more!  Exercise moves the accumulated stress and anxiety from your muscles out of the body.  Sometimes I have exercised until I cried. Not because it hurt physically but because the stress and anxiety was leaving my body.  Certainly do not exercise to the point of hurting yourself but get out there. Walk, Run, Hike, Lift Weights. Do Yoga. Move!  Body movement gives your mind something to think about other than what worries you and as said before, movement moves the stress out. Exercise is number one on the list for a very good reason.

Number 2: Get a Massage. Massage and body work relieves the buildup of emotions of worry, stress and fear from the body. Very similar to exercise. Massage can be very emotional for some. Be sure to find someone you trust and if the idea of continuous touch is too much, consider a hot stone massage. In a hot stone massage, the massage therapist primarily uses warm stones to massage the body versus complete hand contact massage.

Number 3: Try Guided Visualization or Meditation. YouTube has some wonderful guided imagery and meditation videos/recordings to listen to for no charge. You can search for specific topics for anxiety or stress relief or fear. Listen several times a day if you need to. My favorites are Deepak Chopra and a guy with a great voice – Jason Stephenson from Australia.

Number 4: Turn off the negative sources, seek solutions. Facebook, news, radio – take a break. Most information conveyed on these outlets are nothing more than complaints and fears with no solutions. The mind needs and wants solutions to feel safe. If you are listing to non-solution based news or social media feeds, or even people, switch the source off and find solution-based information. Only talk and listen to people offering solutions and ideas. There are amazing people doing amazing things in the world. Being around solution based individuals, you will feel more creative, more empowered and less fearful.

Number 5: Use Essential Oils. Strong smelling essential oils are the most beneficial when inhaling for anxiety relief. Oils such as Geranium (which is excellent for shock), Lavender (for relaxing the mind) and Peppermint (for clarifying thinking). All three of these essential oils wake up the senses and can help your mind snap out of a thinking pattern. Inhalation of essential oils is especially useful in the middle of the night, when you just cannot get that mind to stop, try inhaling essential oils out of the bottle or a drop in your hand while breathing deep until you are in control of your thoughts again. Combine with tip Number 9 – listen to your breath.

Number 6: Acupuncture Works! Acupuncture is effective by helping the body “remember itself” or by getting the body back to its natural balance (also known as homeostasis). A body out of balance feels anxious and nervous. Acupuncture works with very specific points on the body creating relief, then balance. When the body is in balance your thinking is clearer and the mind is calm. Acupuncture is the best remedy for a full-blown panic attack so find an acupuncturist near you. Acupuncturists consider anxiety relief this  way: when your heart is happy, you feel at home.

Number 7: Read a good, enjoyable book while soaking in a bath in Epsom salts. Water alone is very therapeutic, calming and comforting. Add Epsom salts which help relieve muscle tension and you have a very effective combination. Add a good, light-hearted story to get your mind off your worries and if nothing else, you will find 30 minutes of peace.

Number 8: Acknowledge, if you can, what it is you are really afraid of. We don’t always know right away what our fears are but if you kindly ask yourself, you may reveal the answer. THEN, acknowledge that it’s there, know it is okay whatever you are feeling and then find the opposite of that fear. Breathe in confidence, breath out the fear. This specific technique is great to use during the day if you begin to panic and have no other tools to turn to.

Number 9: Listen to your breath. Close your eyes. Focus on your breath. Breathe in DEEP for 5 breaths, breathe out for 7 counts. Repeat. Breathe as deep as you possibly can. Deep breath in, deep breath out. Bring yourself into the present moment and get yourself “out of your head” by listening to your breath. Consider that thoughts of the past can equal regret and guilt. Thoughts of the future can equal worry and fear of what may happen. Be in the present. Return to the present when you are too far off track.

Number 10: Get some Bach Rescue Remedy. Bach Rescue Remedy can be found at health stores. Dr. Edward Bach became interested in homeopathic remedies after working as a surgeon and casualty medical officer. Rescue Remedy is a blend of five unique Bach Flower Remedies. The mix “was created by Dr. Bach to deal with emergencies and crises – the moments when there is no time to make a proper individual selection of remedies. It can be used to help us get through any stressful situations, from last-minute exam or interview nerves, to the aftermath of an accident or bad news. Rescue Remedy helps us relax, get focused and get the needed calmness.” (Source: Bach Flower website http://www.bachflower.com/rescue-remedy-information/). You can purchase Rescue Remedy in drops or lozenges.

Be kind to yourself and I know from experience, that you can manage your anxiety naturally.

Much love,

xoxo

Signe Holiday

#clevergirlbeauty #naturalanxietyrelief

 

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The #1 Thing You Can Do Today to Immediately Break Your Sugar Cravings

The #1 Thing You Can Do Today to Immediately Break Your Sugar Cravings

Sugar Love Ahhh sugar, that handsome devil of an addictive love affair that has us wanting, craving, obsessing for more. Attractive, luscious, kissing our tastebuds, making our mouths water at the thought of the sweet, sometimes creamy, lickable, often lip-licking, wanted fixation of our desire. Sugar is a preoccupation of the most destructive kind – a habit which […]

Four Easy Ways to Quiet Your Mind to Relieve Stress

Four Easy Ways to Quiet Your Mind to Relieve Stress

Why Meditate and Quiet Your Mind For women, meditation can be a very powerful stress reliever. A potent practice and discipline which can clear the mind, balance hormones, reinforce your ability to focus during a day, and create an overall calmness of inner power and confidence. Four Easy Ways to […]

Book Review: JJ Virgin’s Sugar Impact Diet: Drop 7 Hidden Sugars, Lose Up to 10 Pounds in Just 2 Weeks

Book Review: JJ Virgin’s Sugar Impact Diet: Drop 7 Hidden Sugars, Lose Up to 10 Pounds in Just 2 Weeks

Sugar addiction is real and complicated and it can be incredibly challenging!

Goals of dieting, weight loss and eating right can be blown away in two bites before we know what is happening by this compulsion that can become out of our mental and physical control. Science has confirmed that sugar can be an unmanageable dependence if we let it get out of hand and into mouth.

If you struggle with this addiction, conquering it can be frustrating and even seem hopeless at times (especially when hormones are doing their thing).  Personally, I struggle with this inclination all the time – I have my whole life. Some days/weeks/months are better than others. Situations such as celebrations, parties, holidays, stress, hormones sets this addiction off into what seems to be an uncontrollable eating pattern.

Sugar addiction, like any other addiction, can be managed yet it takes more than tenacity – it takes information and tools.

For a quick prompt relief of a sugar binge, read my blog The #1 Thing You Can Do Today to Immediately Break Your Sugar Cravings.

For a long-term understanding and a diet plan that works, read JJ Virgin’s The Sugar Impact Diet.

Numerous books are available on breaking the sugar habit – I think I have read them all! Most authors on this topic explain the reasons to stop eating sugar and give tricks and ideas for, in most cases, going “cold turkey” with sugar consumption. This might work for some but I learned this never worked for me and certainly never worked long-term. I was back to eating the white stuff (hidden in everything) in a week or two of solid determination.

Part of what makes breaking the sugar habit tough is sugar is added to many foods that we don’t even realize, compounding the cravings. Sugar creates sugar dependence like any good opioid releaser.

What I found to be different about The Sugar Impact Diet is that JJ explains in detail where and how sugar is hidden in our foods; how breaking the sugar addiction is far more than just cutting out the white stuff; how to ease off the sugar for best results; and she gives ideas for substitution foods. Her book is an informational process of ideas and knowledge for successful ways to drop the sweet destructive monkey on your back.

She is also honest about the fact that the monkey may return and what to do about it when it does.

If you are ready to conquer the sugar fixation or at least be more in charge of the dependence, I would highly suggest reading and having as a tool JJ Virgin’s Book: The Sugar Impact Diet: Drop 7 Hidden Sugars, Lose Up to 10 Pounds in Just 2 Weeks

 

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Book Review – How Not to Look Old by Charla Krupp

Book Review – How Not to Look Old by Charla Krupp

Learn how looking old is less about genetics and more about your style in Charla Krupp’s book How Not to Look Old. How Not To Look Old was published in 2008 yet is still my go-to-book for easy ways to look younger, appear stylish for […]